Domestic Violence

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Moving Past Domestic Violence

According to, three women are murdered every day by their partners in the US, and nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in relationships report that their partner threatened them with physical violence in the face of a potential break-up. It is estimated that 10 million children in the US witness some sort of domestic violence every year, and victims of this power-based personal violence lose 8 million hours of work annually.

It is never okay for someone you are dating, or with whom you live, to hit you, or even threaten to hit you. It is not right for those who ‘love you’ to try to separate you from friends or other family members, make you feel bad about yourself, or cause you to fear what might happen to you or your children.

Generally speaking, domestic violence is when a person lives under the threat of harm from family members. Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behavior, including physical, sexual, verbal, psychological, and emotional attacks which individuals use against their dating partners ( . Either way, make no mistake – whether you are married, dating, or living in a domestic partnership, you do not have to live with this kind of abuse.

Individuals of every age and every gender are capable of committing domestic/dating violence, and are also the victims of it. And yet most people, including 57% of college students, admit that they would not know what to do to help a friend or classmate who was being attacked.

Some things to remember…

  • Relationships are meant to be mutually supportive and respectful
  • Trust your instincts – if something doesn’t feel right, leave
  • When getting to know someone, stay in safe, public places
  • Always keep in touch with family and friends, no matter how long you have been dating someone
  • Violence is not your fault – if you are being abused, it is the other person’s fault…
  • Anyone can apologize, but repeated violent behavior is not okay
  • You should have a plan for getting away if things within your relationship turn frightening

At CCRI, we have resources to help, and we can help direct you to whatever you need. If you are in an abusive situation, or know someone who is, you can contact us at [email protected]. You can also contact the campus police – even if the violence is not happening on campus. All of our college advisors are trained counselors who are more than willing to help you. And you can always get more info and support from statewide organizations.

Sojourner House Helpline – 401-765-3232

Last Updated: 2/27/20