According to DomesticViolenceStatistics.org, three women are murdered every day by their partners in the US, and nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in relationships report that their partner threatened them with physical violence in the face of a potential break-up. It is estimated that 10 million children in the US witness some sort of domestic violence every year, and victims of this power-based personal violence lose 8 million hours of work annually.
It is never okay for someone you are dating, or with whom you live, to hit you, or even threaten to hit you. It is not right for those who ‘love you’ to try to separate you from friends or other family members, make you feel bad about yourself, or cause you to fear what might happen to you or your children.
Generally speaking, domestic violence is when a person lives under the threat of harm from family members. Dating violence is a pattern of abusive behavior, including physical, sexual, verbal, psychological, and emotional attacks which individuals use against their dating partners (http://geneq.berkeley.edu) . Either way, make no mistake – whether you are married, dating, or living in a domestic partnership, you do not have to live with this kind of abuse.
Individuals of every age and every gender are capable of committing domestic/dating violence, and are also the victims of it. And yet most people, including 57% of college students, admit that they would not know what to do to help a friend or classmate who was being attacked.
Some things to remember…
At CCRI, we have resources to help, and we can help direct you to whatever you need. If you are in an abusive situation, or know someone who is, you can contact us at GenderEquity@ccri.edu. You can also contact the campus police – even if the violence is not happening on campus. All of our college advisors are trained counselors who are more than willing to help you. And you can always get more info and support from statewide organizations.
Rhode Island Coalition against Domestic Violence 24-hr helpline – 800-494-8100
Sojourner House Helpline – 401-765-3232
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